Sunshine, Angels and Rainbows

Today we have sunshine.  I’m not sure if there is relevance in that or not.

I however have a Sunshine Baby.  Do you know what that is?  My Sunshine baby is my firstborn.  Born when I had no idea really that babies could die.  It was 2004 – of course they couldn’t.  It wasn’t something I had ever heard of people talking about.  Perhaps it happened to people because they had done something wrong, or because they had been in an accident.  At any rate, it didn’t happen to people like me, and I never considered the possibility.  I got past the ‘safe’ 12 week mark, and never had another thought about it.  My baby was born happy and safely and he is now 10 years old.

Well I have learnt something in that 10 years.  Babies can die.  Babies do die.  And its not because people may have done something wrong.  And its not because they have been in an accident.  Its just cos.  Babies can die, just cos.  Just cos of bad luck.  Just cos of a million different reasons, alot of which we will never know.  A lot of which we cannot prevent.  It sucks.  Its awful.  Its life changing.  Its forever.  It will never be ok.  People will try and tell you it will be ok.  But you know what?  It will never be ok that my baby died.  Ever.  Its just not ok.  How could it be?    Time will pass.  It will get easier.  Then it will get harder again.  You will learn to live with the fact.  But you will never understand why it had to happen to you, and it will never be ok.

Life isn’t all sunshine.  Sadly.  Once you realise this, you will never be the same.  If you are lucky enough to get pregnant again, pregnancy will never be the same.  It will be filled with questions, filled with terror, filled with the unknown.  You have lost your innocence because you know, that no matter how you try, and what you do, you cant always protect that little baby growing in your stomach.  You know, that babies die.  It fills your thoughts and consumes your mind.  Days can drag and weeks can drag.  You live moment by moment until you reach milestones.  There are many to reach.  12 weeks.  24 weeks.  28 weeks.  The gestation your baby died.  Every week over 30.  Full term.  Sometimes you have to take it minute by minute.  Sometimes if you are lucky you can live day to day.  Sometimes a week might even pass and suddenly you’ll be another week along.  Pregnancy after loss is a very difficult journey.  Birth after loss is a very difficult journey.  All you want is to hold that baby in your arms.

Then there is the Rainbows.  You love your rainbow like nothing on earth.  You feel guilty about this too.  You know you are experiencing things with your rainbow that you missed out on with your Angel.  That makes you sad.  But happy too because you do get to see your rainbow do these things.  Then guilty that you are happy.  Your rainbow makes you happy, and brings some light back into your life.  But its still not ok.  Sometimes it gets harder again.  Sometimes time passes and everything seems normal.  Then you realise time has passed and things have felt normal and you feel sad and guilty about that.  This is the new normal.  Where everything is confusing and mixed up and wrong, but there is also newfound happiness and joy.  But in that there is something missing.  Someone missing.  And there always will be.  Missing from Earth, but held tight in our hearts.

My Sunshine, Angel and Rainbow – all held in my heart.

I made this – for my babies.

Sunsine Angel Rainbow

Suz x

Fathers Day is coming up quickly – ideas and giveaways!

Well, Fathers Day will be upon us soon, here in New Zealand.

Less than a month to go.  It’s a busy time of year for me, along with Mothers Day of course. 

We don’t really do presents here, so probably breakfast cooked, and maybe a bag of licorice from the kids (his favourite).  And a sleep in, if he’s lucky!

I’ve got some great gift idea’s though, if you do do presents .. and if you love personalised presents then of course, they just might be for you.  I’d love to make them for my husband, but he has a keyring, and a necklace, 2 keyrings actually already, so not really any room for any more!

At any rate, if you’d like a wee look, here are some pic’s for you of some handstamped Fathers Day pressies.  Don’t forget to scroll right to the bottom – there’s a couple of links to GIVEAWAYS just for you guys!

Bottle Opener Keyrings – always popular with Dad!Print

If Dad’s a guitar player, how about a personalised guitar pick – comes in a pouch, and its a keyring too!

Ashleigh guitar pick

This one is also a keyring – its a golf ball marker – how cool is that !

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Cufflinks are always a great idea if Dad wears suits … and personalised ones are even better!

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Is your Dad a superhero ?  How bout checking out my Superhero range ?

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Stainless steel notes – a permanent note to tell Dad how much you love him (or anything else you’d like him to remember!)

Note Stainless STeel

Here’s another keyring – can be any quote – but I kinda like the Zombie one .. heartfelt, but funny!

Brass Spiral Keyring

This keyring has a more serious quote.

Aluminium Spiral Keyring

And always a favourite amongst the guys – dog tags.

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Well, that was a selection of a few things I have on offer for Dad’s this Fathers Day … I hope you and your Dad, or your kiddies Daddy’s all have a wonderful day, and get to spend some quality time together, because, presents aside – that is really what Fathers Day is all about.  If you dont see your Dad often – dont forget to just let him know you love him!

Click my logo to visit my website!

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Oh and hey – I’ve got a Fathers Day giveaway going on at the moment: Click the image below to be magically transported to the page on my website to enter!  Closes 21 August 2014

Fathers Day Giveaway

AND – one more thing – here’s another AMAZING giveaway – only for NEW ZEALANDERS – but the prize pool is huge $1800 – some really cool prizes up for grabs – including a bow and arrow set – and $100 worth of KJdesigns goodies!

  ULTIMATE Fathers Day Giveaway

Good luck if you enter the giveaways !!!! And Thank You for reading.

Suz :)

School Holidays

And so it is school holidays again!

I was looking forward to them, but the weather has really been terrible! However its been great having Mr 10 at home, he is such a great help, and good company (when he’s not talking about computer games!).

Yesterday we did some rainbow looming and he made 12 bracelets or something like that, lots anyway! More than I could have made!

We were wanting to get outside today, but its windy and rainy and just yuk.

My baby, 6 months on Monday, is suffering from his reflux again, we cant seem to get on top of it, it means he isn’t interested in a bottle .. however he has a new love of food! Real food! His favourites are pear, banana and kumera. I think he has a bit of a sweet tooth, but at least he’s getting something, it’s all good. I need to have another cook up, probably tomorrow.

Because of the weather I’m sure there is a little mouse that keeps running up and down the hallway, stopping and peeking in at us, then keeping going! I’m not too scared of mice, unless they run over my feet … but would rather he not be in the house! We have some homemade trap ideas to try, for Mr 10, before hubby gets home and can trap him properly!

In the meantime I made a couple of pendants for the school holidays … if you are a Frozen fan you might like them … here’s a little preview!

Frozen Pendant 1

Frozen Pendant2

What do you think?  Click on the images to be magically transported to my website ;)

Enjoy the rest of your holidays and hope the weather is better where you are!!!

 

Suz x

 

Inspirational quote giveaway

So KJdesigns has been closed for a while, several reasons, you know how it is!  Needing to catch up on a pile of orders was one of them.  A little baby not wanting to sleep another.  My Mum in hospital another.  Lots of things going on, so I needed to get my orders up to date, and then have a bit of time for me and my family.

I’m feeling a bit more on top of things now, and I’m missing KJdesigns!!!  I had a bit of a shopping spree the other day, some new things and a very nice new font which I am soooooo looking forward to getting.  So much so that I dreamt about it last night!  Crazy huh!

Anyway – I thought I’d do a giveaway – share your favourite quote (or quotes) and I’ll chose my top 5, and then let a randomiser chose the winner … I will then stamp a pendant with this quote, in my new font – and share the new font – and the winners pendant at the same time! 

Loving all the quotes so far – this is going to be REALLY difficult.

Here’s the pic … click on it to visit my Facebook page and enter with your favourite quote if you like!

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And good luck!  Love, love, love all the quotes – this is my favourite giveaway ever and its only just started!

Mothers Day

Well its Mothers Day.

I love my babies.  One of them got me up at 5am.  One of them made me a lovely ‘teapot’ card.

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One of them, I can’t see.  I can’t cuddle.  I can’t squeeze and tickle.  One of them is not physically with me.  He is in my heart and  I miss him.  Every day.  But today, is hard.  I have 3 boys, but just 2 of them are here.  I wish I could cuddle and talk to Koby, he would be running round, giggling and waking the baby!  He would be out with my hubby and my sunshine baby now, buying me my Mothers Day present.  Wonder what he would choose to buy? 

Yes its Mothers Day, I have 2 of my beautiful children here.  But one is missing.  While I am happy, I am also sad.  Something is missing, sometimes it feels like I have to grab onto the missing piece and hold it as tight as I can so it doesn’t slip away.  Time makes images fade, and it’s scarey the thought of my baby fading away.  But he’s there, always, with me, with us, and he will always be a part of our family.  He will be forever with us, and forever loved and remembered.

Happy Mothers Day to all the Mummies out there, not only the ones with their babies with them, but those with their babies in their hearts.  Happy Mothers Day to all the Aunties, Daddies, Grandparents, who are “Mummies”, either to children here, or in their hearts.  And Happy Mothers Day to my Mum.  Love you always.

 

 

New products and new baby …

Pretty exciting .. my first week back ‘at work’.  Its been challanging with my gorgeous little boy being 10 weeks old, and not sleeping longer than 45 minutes at a time … but I managed to not only make some sales – but to get some orders made and out in the post!  Exciting stuff.  Perhaps it will all work :)  So 10 packages went out in the post!  Felt very organised!

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Lets hope it can continue!  I am sure it can.  For 1 – I LOVE working again.  I have missed it alot!  I also LOVE my boy and kinda miss him when he is sleeping – isn’t that silly!  I want both haha – lots of time to work, and lots of time with my baby.  All at the same time. 

He is such a happy baby – love all his smiles and cheekyness.  Hopefully though he will learn the joy of sleep – I kind of remember how it feels to sleep all night – hopefully one day soon I’ll be reunited with sleeps longer than a couple of hours at a time!  Though saying that we only have 1 night feed so I cant complain … and I have been getting a 6 hour stretch most nights – if I can sleep the whole 6 hours now that would be fantastic too!

So my husband has been home a few days this week, which is probably why I’ve managed to get as many orders made as I have …. I also attempted to update my website … and then baby woke up – isn’t he the cutest!!

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However I did manage to photograph and get some of my new products up on the website for everyone to see… I’ll share them here too – hope everyone loves them!

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There’s more, but I’ll save them for another post – for sure my baby will wake up soon and I’ll be half way through this post.  Lots of things seem to get half finished – that is if I’m lucky!  But that’s the like of a stay at home Mum, and a work at home Mum.

The rewards are immeasurable though – I melt every time he smiles, and he smiles alot, its just so cute.  Lots of ‘talking’ now too, just so gorgeous, and not something I thought I’d get to enjoy again.  Its been such a long time since my big boy was a baby, I had forgotten almost just how gorgeous babies are and just how they can make you feel.  It probably sounds strange, I knew I’d love him, but I didn’t know just how much he’d make me smile.  I just love all my family to bits. 

On that note, Thank you for reading… and as he is still asleep I shall see if I can do a bit more of my current order :)